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Blogs > Platosgames > Beginning Again

How to fight loneliness
 

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
8/28/2018 9:06 pm

 You and one other are the most engaging male bloggers here. Very refreshing.


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/29/2018 4:33 am
    Quoting positively4you:
    You and one other are the most engaging male bloggers here. Very refreshing.
Thank you. That's very nice of you to say.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


ghostrider1544 68M
Ask me for a photo
251 posts
8/29/2018 12:54 pm

 The worst kind of lonely is lonely with someone .


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/29/2018 1:43 pm
    Quoting ghostrider1544:
    The worst kind of lonely is lonely with someone .
I'd have to agree. I lived that for a while , way back when.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/29/2018 3:20 pm
    Quoting Heathen_G:
    anyone can see he's just a misogynist. .....

    Misogynist: a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women. ....

    That's not me, and certainly not "Just a ".

    Stating opinions on topics on here, disagreeing with some women, and disliking some of the women on here, does NOT make me, you, or any other man, a misogynist. Troubled women slander men with that word an awful lot because it's easier to throw a fit, than communicate rationally.

    Are we to think women, such as herself, is a misandrist?

    [misandrist : a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against men.]

    No, that would be ridiculous. She's just all upset with me.

    So think for yourself.
First, I always think for myself. If you can't see that you're not trying. Next, I also don't base an opinion off of any one thing anyone says or does. I've seen enough of your posts, responses to base a projected opinion.

I could take your comment and flip it, troubled women slander men, could just as easily become, troubled men slander women. One could ask, why is she upset with you.

I'm not telling you how to live, how to act. You gotta be you. But again, thinking for myself? I'd say you make a lot of prejudicial statements about women not to be jaded in some form. That didn't even take much thought, just reading your responses.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/29/2018 4:41 pm
    Quoting Heathen_G:
    One could ask, why is she upset with you. ... Oh I know exactly why. Maybe tell you about it sometime...But I won't mention that here. Have a good day.
Fair enough. You have a good night.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


helen_damnation 61F  
2487 posts
8/29/2018 5:01 pm

 By the end, I found marriage lonelier than being alone. Apparently not an uncommon situation.
I always needed plenty of alone time. I do my own thing. Its satisfies most of my wants and needs.
I do wish I had learned to play guitar. I have one hidden in the corner that I swore would teach me. Maybe someday I will get to it again. Till then I will just keep singing to myself.
I am the only Me you get.


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/29/2018 6:57 pm
    Quoting helen_damnation:
    By the end, I found marriage lonelier than being alone. Apparently not an uncommon situation.
    I always needed plenty of alone time. I do my own thing. Its satisfies most of my wants and needs.
    I do wish I had learned to play guitar. I have one hidden in the corner that I swore would teach me. Maybe someday I will get to it again. Till then I will just keep singing to myself.
I agree, I feel less alone being happily divorced. And yeah, though I get times of thinking I should share life with someone..I also wonder how I would do if I couldn't get alone time.

On the guitar. It's never too late to start. There are tons of online sites these days to help you learn. Justin Guitar is a good one. It will take you from not even knowing what a guitar looks like to playing any style and type of music you enjoy.

Thanks for posting
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


yesmamallthetime 56F  
11278 posts
8/29/2018 7:59 pm

 Very thought provoking post. I have not had a relationship in almost two decades. I have really missed out on a lot of things in life. I will spare you the reasons. LOL I am alone most of the time. I would say the loneliness hits me at some point of everyday. I do have the unconditional love of my companion animals. As weird as it sounds I feel less lonely with them.
Independently Romantic Sounds Better Than Lonely


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/30/2018 9:17 am
    Quoting yesmamallthetime:
    Very thought provoking post. I have not had a relationship in almost two decades. I have really missed out on a lot of things in life. I will spare you the reasons. LOL I am alone most of the time. I would say the loneliness hits me at some point of everyday. I do have the unconditional love of my companion animals. As weird as it sounds I feel less lonely with them.
I think some people feel loneliness more than others. It can be a horrible emotion, and can drag on everything good in our lives.

Not weird at all with the pet thing. Pets are proven to be great companions that can help with being alone. Just not a complete replacement for that human contact though.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/31/2018 9:42 pm
    Quoting  :
No, thank you for the response. That was a emotionally gripping post that described a lifetime in a few lines. I truly hope you find peace and the love that you seek. Not just some reasonable facsimile that fills a void

thanks for sharing..
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
9/1/2018 1:13 pm
    Quoting  :
I like to say, always remember your past, look to your future, but if you don't pay attention to where you are , here and now, you're going to miss some of life's greatest moments.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


ISOAZN 48F  
46 posts
9/8/2018 8:44 am

 Sometimes surrounding yourself with friends fight off that loneliness.


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
9/8/2018 10:08 am
    Quoting ISOAZN:
    Sometimes surrounding yourself with friends fight off that loneliness.
Very true. I'm rarely lonely, but when I get that way, I surround myself with friends and family. I'm also good at, like the song says, smiling all the time.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


chrissy20073 65T
315 posts
9/18/2018 8:04 pm

 great blog I would like to add my opinion on this I was married for 37 years and had a good marriage ]my wife passed about 12 years ago after that I did and was feeling alone and lonely but kind of got used to it . After a few years of this I was ok with it and being alone was ok feel lonely sometimes most around the holidays but kind of learned to be alone . Now my daughter moved in as she is getting a divorce and now I think or feel that I am alone and lonely if that makes sence


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
9/19/2018 7:17 am
    Quoting chrissy20073:
    great blog I would like to add my opinion on this I was married for 37 years and had a good marriage ]my wife passed about 12 years ago after that I did and was feeling alone and lonely but kind of got used to it . After a few years of this I was ok with it and being alone was ok feel lonely sometimes most around the holidays but kind of learned to be alone . Now my daughter moved in as she is getting a divorce and now I think or feel that I am alone and lonely if that makes sence
Yeah it does make sense. Sometimes you can feel the most alone, around someone else. You realize you don't have that intimate connection with someone.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


chrissy20073 65T
315 posts
9/20/2018 11:09 pm

 Yes think that makes sense ty When the people around you are driving you crazy and making you depressed makes a lot of sense


Kyguy568 56M

9/26/2018 3:52 am

 I must agree being alone does not necessarily cause one to feel lonely. As a matter of fact one can be with someone and still be lonely. I enjoy my a lone time. Been married 30 years and feel more lonely when we are together than when I’m alone. There’s no communication, as much as I try and with the advancement in technology it seems that has become our partners, rather than each other. Not gripping, just saying sometimes you can be lonely even when your not alone.


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
9/26/2018 11:25 am
    Quoting Kyguy568:
    I must agree being alone does not necessarily cause one to feel lonely. As a matter of fact one can be with someone and still be lonely. I enjoy my a lone time. Been married 30 years and feel more lonely when we are together than when I’m alone. There’s no communication, as much as I try and with the advancement in technology it seems that has become our partners, rather than each other. Not gripping, just saying sometimes you can be lonely even when your not alone.
Absolutely. Thing is, and no judgement here, I don't understand why people stay as long as they do. I know I stayed longer than I should have, but I'd just never do that again. Lifes too short to spend it with someone you don't like.

Thanks for posting.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


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