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Blogs > Platosgames > Beginning Again

Fun Sex  

Platosgames 102M
2246 posts
8/21/2018 12:45 pm
Fun Sex

Got a call last night from an FWB, who moved away a couple of back. While the benefits moved with her, the friendship remains, and we still talk fairly regularly. She broke up over the weekend, with her boyfriend and wanted to talk, complain, bitch, cry, and talk about times. I listened, agreed,(she always made good points), and gave her the reassurances that she needed.

Somewhere in the middle of the conversation, she mentioned she still missed me at times, because the sex was always fun. I countered with, I hope she didn't mean funny, like when the lady laughs when you first take off your pants.

( paraphrasing her comment)
She laughed and said, "no, while I remember a lot of passionate and romantic love making, I also remember that lots of times, it was like we were having fun. Doing silly stuff, laughing so hard we had to stop and regroup. Like the time you fell off the bed trying a new position. Or you burning dinner and setting off the smoke alarms, because we got carried away chasing each other around the house. Playing in the pool, playing on the beach. It was just usually fun, which always turned me on."

After she hung up, I was thinking about the conversation, and this part stuck in my head. While I've always considered myself a laid back, fun loving kind of guy and certainly the romantic type and definitely passionate. But to be honest, I've never really consciously thought about making sex "fun", or the distinctive differences in any of the times I've had sex. It is more of a, we're having fun, laughing, playing turning into touching, touching leading to sex. Just a natural extension of who I , and me being me. Then there are times, when the mood is quiet, I find myself lost in "her" eyes, and enjoy the quiet, soft, romantic love making. While I have been known to set a romantic environment, I have to say, most of the time it's more of a result of the interaction that's going on at the moment. Not a planned response.

So, after that long preface, do you enjoy "fun sex" or romantic sex better? Both? Do you find yourself planning it to go only one way? Women do you enjoy/get turned on by light hearted "fun sex", as much as my FWB apparently did?

This is an easy one, because from where I stand, there are no wrong answers.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/21/2018 12:46 pm

 Again, there are no wrong answers.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


bitchkitty2017 71F

8/21/2018 1:00 pm

 well she was an old fwb for a reason ! good times bad times it ended and seems like it kind of left you yearning a bit..What happens if that's what she is doing to you just to become more than friends again ? till the next time? ..its your heart only you can keep it healthy ...she had and I repeat had another boyfriend for a reason..yr gonna be left holding the bag when shes with another again..i don't let someone use me unless I want them to..which does not happen ..been there and they only get one kick at the can ...keep the friendship but see what yr heart says about that..


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/21/2018 1:11 pm
    Quoting bitchkitty2017:
    well she was an old fwb for a reason ! good times bad times it ended and seems like it kind of left you yearning a bit..What happens if that's what she is doing to you just to become more than friends again ? till the next time? ..its your heart only you can keep it healthy ...she had and I repeat had another boyfriend for a reason..yr gonna be left holding the bag when shes with another again..i don't let someone use me unless I want them to..which does not happen ..been there and they only get one kick at the can ...keep the friendship but see what yr heart says about that..
I'm sure that happens a lot, but not in this case.
Her job moved her to another state, and while I enjoyed our time together immensely, she's waaaaay outside my driving range.
I will say I miss our time together, she was a great lady, but I have no problem remembering the good times, while looking forward to the life in front of me.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


1Swing69 64M

8/21/2018 1:11 pm

 The best "FWB" happen to fall in love with me because not only of the way I made love to her [yes she was married and hubby had a longer cock]but how I treated her.Mind and body. We chatted afterwards staying close till lost my contacts. Damm I sure her.


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/21/2018 1:28 pm

 Just for the record, this isn't just about FWB, question pertains to LTR, married couples, etc. Just happened to have been a conversation with a FWB.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/21/2018 1:30 pm
    Quoting 1Swing69:
    The best "FWB" happen to fall in love with me because not only of the way I made love to her [yes she was married and hubby had a longer cock]but how I treated her.Mind and body. We chatted afterwards staying close till lost my contacts. Damm I sure her.
So, was it more fun sex, romantic sex...?
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Naughtypursuit 56F  
2766 posts
8/21/2018 4:27 pm

 I think there is a time and place for all different kinds of sex from fun, romantic to the quickie on the stairs. Sexual compatibility for me at least is being able to be diverse.


bluegrasspatriot 62M

8/21/2018 4:48 pm

 What does she want? All those compliments...by the way, great body.


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/21/2018 5:47 pm
    Quoting Naughtypursuit:
    I think there is a time and place for all different kinds of sex from fun, romantic to the quickie on the stairs. Sexual compatibility for me at least is being able to be diverse.
agreed.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/21/2018 5:48 pm
    Quoting bluegrasspatriot:
    What does she want? All those compliments...by the way, great body.
Just happiness...oh and world peace.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102M
3189 posts
8/22/2018 6:56 am
    Quoting  :
Agreed, you do see people use the descriptor of "lets have some fun", as a way of saying lets have sex. As long as you're both enjoying the sexual encounter, I'm not sure you could be accused of doing it wrong.

Agree that lots of times the having fun, outside of a sexual act, often leads to sex, but sure, not always. My point was more that if I think about it, there are lots of times, and not just with this FWB, where it just wasn't as "serious" , romantic sex. Maybe the word "fun" is the wrong word to use here. But to be honest, I'm not sure any other word would describe it any better. Just more of a lighter mood, both laughing,

BTW, I like the responses I've seen you give on here. Interesting, thought out responses.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


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