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Please do me a Favor
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Please do me a Favor There have been a few instances recently that have upset me to the point where I’m now asking a favor of everyone. Please stop using the term “SISSY FAGGOT” either to describe me or others. To me, this is the most vile and degrading term I see used on the internet. It is pure slang and has no place to define a person. I find it totally insensitive. I see people use these words without even thinking about what they really mean. I am not trying to conduct a English class, well maybe a little, but the term “Sissy faggot” should only be used when a person want to describe themselves. It is just incorrect to apply it to others. Sissy really means Weak, Cowardly, or Feeble. Or a Wimp or Namby-Pamby. It was never intended to describe a person’s sexual identity. Faggot come from a Latin slur to describe someone as Odd. Who in their right mind wants to be called “Cowardly odd” ?. If a person wishes to describe themselves in this way, or gets pleasure from being humiliated that’s FINE with me. Just never apply this to me or other Transexuals, either Male to Female or Female to Male. We are strong people that have endured many painful years to assume our chosen identity. We have been ridiculed, insulted and often physically abused in public. We have been called mentally disturbed. We have been shunned and belittled while transitioning. All of this has made those of us that have continued along this path stronger mentally and emotionally. I can handle anything thrown at me except being called Cowardly. I would not have become who I am by being Weak. I am proud of what I have accomplished in life and will not accept being called a Sissy Faggot. All I am expecting in life is to be free from demeaning insults and allowed to live my life in peace. Jan |
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I agree Only self identified Sissies should be referred to as one. As for the "F" word should never be used as far as I am concerned. I have now gotten back in 2018 in catching up on your Blog Jan. I so love your writing, sense of humor and insights. Peter.
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1 post 12/20/2018 6:11 am |
Hi Jan, I loved reading your blog articles. This one, however, struck a chord with me. When I was younger, back in the late 50's - early 60's, I grew up in a macho atmosphere where I learned plenty of derogatory terms for gay people. There was tremendous pressure back then to both act and be macho, but try as I might, I was never accepted as such. I didn't play many sports and I was small for my age. When I was 12 years old I met a local kid and he slowly "groomed" me for a homosexual experience. It was frightening for me, given the social atmosphere of gay haters I lived amongst, but I liked the experience and began seeking it out from time to time. At age 17 a local lifeguard at the neighborhood public pool whom I was friends with, asked me to stay over at his house before a camp out in the desert. We had mind blowing sex that even now I fantasize about. But, that nagging social stigma always stuck with me and I never would have admitted I was bisexual. In my late 30's I moved to China to teach English and after a year I moved on to Thailand, where I stayed 12 years. The social environment in Thailand is different and ladyboys are widely accepted. It was there that I met Bai Toey, a beautiful pre-op ladyboy whom I lived with for months. I was happy until she stole some of my stuff and ran off, most likely to pawn the stuff she stole to finance breast implants. But, now I'm back here in the states and in my decending years (I'm 63) with a mind full of trangender sex and the shame of how I treated gays when I was younger. I suppose I'm more mature now and not one who needs to be accepted into any particular macho social groups. Besides, all those negative terms men use for gays is just a glaring symbol of their intense homophobia and their reluctance to accept what might already be brewing in their own mihds. Back years ago in the early 70's I frequented a public bathroom occasionally, which was a known bisuxual and gay pickup spot and low and behold I recognized one of the guys there who was one of the biggest gay bashers at our school. Go figure. Anyway, I like your intelligence and your compasionate sense. I just wish I had the money to upgrade to another level beyond standard membership and even possibly take you out to dinner sometime, but I'm disabled and on public assistance so that is out of my reach. You go girl! Jim
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The last line of your blog applies to everyone... No offence on my part... Have a great night 
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As I tried to say, If someone applies the words to themselves, that's is absolutely fine with me. I was trying to make the point Please Don't apply it to me. Guess it's a personal thing. I hope I didn't offend anyone.
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11/2/2018 5:10 pm |
I didn't know about the Latin origin. Thanks. I wouldn't take it personal, for a subgroup of people that has a fetish surrounding it, the words cause arousal for when presented to them in a certain way. Probably tied in with humiliation/exposure kind of thing but. Who knows..
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11/2/2018 7:54 am |
be proud of who you are. I am. I am married to a woman, but LOVE to be Bi. I love cock and ass. I love to make love to a TS ot cross dresser or just a guy wanting to be sucked and fucked. I am me.. we all love to give and receive pleasure. ...\8
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