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No show , No contact , last miute cancellations
No show , No contact , last miute cancellations Lifestyle BLOG posting from a couple with a psychology degree in human behavioral studies and a former professional dating coach. WRITTEN OCTOBER 13th ,2019 This will be one of our shortest articles. We do a lot of work to set expectations , make plans, confirm and reconfirm when trying to meet a new person-date , location , & time to meet as well as clear our schedules to ensure that we are available. We are consistently cancelled on last minute, or even worse no contact , no show after hours, days , or even weeks of text messaging and calls. You cant be successful on any site if you DON'T SHOW UP. We are tired, frustrated and disappointed by the lack of courtesy our society offers others. Over 80% of plans on this site never show up -- This is one of the major reasons that people QUIT the lifestyle and using online sites of this nature- due to so many lies, fakes, and people that simply cant keep a promise to meet. Simple message -- have some integrity and courtesy for others time and effort. |
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Saddened that it seems to be the norm. ... The "Normal" online. Sure. This is to be expected when you are online dealing with people who only know you as some words on a screen and some pictures. If you went to an actual physical Swingers Club, interacting would be far different. Courtesy and integrity is lacking as a human dynamic. ..... "Online" is NOT a human dynamic, it's a technological dynamic. Sterile. Unknown. Void of that human element our senses can react to, to acquire sensual perception of another. We feel that many dont articulate this part of the lifestyle. ..... Because you're only some words on a screen. We truly wish it was better not only for us but for all members to have a better understanding of the landscape and true nature of online dating. ..... The true nature of online dating, is extremely dangerous. People react first to what their imagination of the other, tells them. The only way to do that is to be vocal in the hope that it makes a better community for all of us. .... No. Being vocal will not change people into going along with the blindness of online technology. of course most dont give a shit. .... There's nothing human to give a shit about , that's just it. but it doesn't mean we cant be caring and expressive for the benefit of our swinger community ourselves. .... Sure, you can, but your online Swinging community is still only staring at a screen with images and words. No human dynamic, no exchange of sense information. Don't expect others to be like you, online.
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So 20 years experience, then why now are you all upset about some no-shows?
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20 yrs experience in the lifestyle , stats have not changed. Really? 20 years experience "In this lifestyle"... oh bs. That would make your woman 11 yo and you 16 yo....
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Yes, ALL meet plans are double confirmed, via text, Voice verify and message on the site email. other article Why do so few people meet & where has the integrity gone in society-STATISTICAL EVALUATION. There are a few other articles in blogs that explain true dating site statistics 20 yrs experience in the lifestyle , stats have not changed. text, chat and video -- lets say 15 mins to an hour over different time periods. Multiple texts answering questions, etc Clearing schedule means both of us having free time to go out and rather than going VANILLA plans choose to meet for lifestyle reasons. YES , of course no issue if people dont show .. we have fun by ourselves... but still frustrating to say the least
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How much are you clearing your schedule for these first meetings? Don't make a big deal out of it. Clear 10 or 20 minutes for a first meeting, and meet as soon as possible. Also, always have a plan B if they are a no-show so your journey "There" is not a total waste of your time. Like food shopping, or dinner with your spouse. But never , never invite someone to meet you for the first time to sit through a meal and drinks with them... Don't do that. Only 10 to 20 minutes or less. When you all feel no burden of obligation to stay and talk, or feel the un-comfortableness of, "When should I leave"...... having that 10 - 20 minute window to make introductions [then leave] is a lot easier on everyone,. Try that. You might find there are fewer no-shows that way.
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10/13/2019 9:06 pm |
The transition from keyboard to face-to-face is a muthafucka!!
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10/13/2019 8:05 pm |
It is frustrating when there is a lack of courtesy.
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Do you ever voice verify first before taking a chance? I think you could raise your percentages that way When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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10/13/2019 7:58 pm |
it's simply not easy.
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10/13/2019 7:58 pm |
lol u wont be successfull if u dont show up lol made me laugh.. thanks
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en lo personal he tenido encuentros sin contratiempos estando de acuerdo con el usuario me gusta ser serio y formal x educación
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10/13/2019 7:46 pm |
Sounds about normal for this site. At least the person was real lol.
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Flakes'n Fakes.
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Of all the women I've met on here I've only been stood up ONE time and looking back I should have seen that one coming. I've met couples that have shared some bad experiences when trying to meet single men - problem is most men think/hope the women really is single and when it becomes obvious hubby is with they bail (head a story where the single guy was actually standing in the restaurant lobby when he ran away LMA. No to be fair, if you're going through that much effort to clear your schedule to ensure that both of you are available then you're already setting yourself up for failure - meet someplace not too far from where you live and have a couple of drinks whether or not the other shows up - you should be able to have a decent time regardless. If you're using kids/work as an excuse for being so busy then you need to rethink your priorities because what you are trying to do isn't really for you. I could go on and on with how to screen people to see if they are real but I will not. No matter what you can always look for a swinger group and attend a party - people do show up for those.,
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10/13/2019 7:22 pm |
Do you ever voice verify first before taking a chance? I think you could raise your percentages that way
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