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Wants, needs and Hopefuls
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Wants, needs and Hopefuls I have been reading a lot of posts and it seems men are wanting to know what makes women tick and what they want. So I decided to ask the same thing, what brought you here and what are you looking for? Curiosity brought me here and the hope of finding someone able to fill my need keeps me here. My ideal relationship is pretty unrealistic. What I want is someone I could know would always be there for me minus all the strings and the emotional hang-ups. I have no desire to "own" another person. I would like only to have that special connection and the feeling of security that would come from that. Ok, I want my cake and eat it too. Why not? I am weary of the games played in traditional relationships. I Am I being unrealistic? I am a sexually self-aware woman and am educated enough to know the belief (monogamy) is unrealistic. Am I wanting something unobtainable? |
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1 post 12/27/2017 9:13 am |
All to often we confuse what we need with what we want. That is a problem. The problem is,, there is no right answer to either question. They are both moving targets. Nothing is really static. Every day things change from what they appeared to be just yesterday. People come and go from our lives which has both posisitive and negitive effects on how it makes us feel. Depressing as it may be, it's what makes us humans, not beasts. Be like a achild on a playground. Get out in the fresh air, make a few pals and by all means laugh a lot. It is simpley changing the water in your think tank.
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I don't think you are being unrealistic at all, What I see you describing is a dedicated friend. But nothing is free and it's something that Both need to build on to cement that connection, just having someone there for companionship and the feeling of security works both ways and trust is important. Having said that, You know what you want or at least what you think you want, I would say go for it, I lost my wife two years ago and I know I'm not emotionally available for a LTR right now, But doesn't mean I don't want companionship once in awhile, I don't want strings and I don't want drama, so I totally understand what you mean. I have been on this site for a long time and I joined just to meet others with similar interest. I met my wife on here in 2004, started dating in 2006, then got married, we both kept our single profiles and respected each others preferences, once we were married, we only played with others at parties, never had an issue, so what you are looking for is possible, you just need to find the right person that you connect with and respects who you are.
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I think the concept of relationships are evolving with time and folk are more open to polygamous relationships. Good luck.
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10/21/2017 1:12 pm |
One never knows what one mind find while looking
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I joined with the hopes of finding those hookups they promise in the add. I was in a sexless marriage and wanting something to fill a need. Now as a widower I'm not sure what I want and been in committed relationships with all the fun and headaches that come with them. Companionship without commitment would be a big change for me and one that sounds appealing. I don't think its unattainable at all. The impossible just takes longer to accomplish..
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I don't think it's unobtainable.It 's just a matter of finding those who share the same anti monogamy agenda.It kind of sucks when we inherently know that it probably will be a common thing in the future.It being related to sex and the human element something tells me that monogamy will resurface not for the reasons of it being a societal norm but rather that the emotional sex revolution will produce the strongest most deadly STD and if you aren't coupled and uninfected you certainly won't be having any sex.Monogamy again for all the wrong reasons It's what those people that follow a higher power thing call "Things happening for a reason." Using more than all the road!
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Actually you have done a great job describing what I want. A strong safe connection, a belief in each other, a sensual intimacy all without smothering each other. Each being a complete individual with a full life is what makes the combination work.
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Possible but rare. And probably not permanent. The dynamics of a relationship change as it is enjoyed. I fear that often the thrill fades with time. Prof10001 Swing by my blog!
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10/21/2017 3:51 am |
It is a high goal, but people attain that state, some have the trappings of a traditional relationship but would do all the same things without them. Hard to find that person, very much so, never happen for you or me, probably, impossible, ehe not so much. Logically, absolutes are difficult to defend. Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.
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Maybe you are being unrealistic but that doesn't matter. You know what you want and that is the way it should be. It will be out there somewhere you just have to find it. “For a moment, nothing happened. Then, after a second or so, nothing continued to happen.” ― Douglas Adams, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy Much like this site  Visit my Blog for my adventures.
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