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Blogs > ladybughug443 > Just another day of monotony.

Feeling emasculated.  

ladybughug443 39F
66 posts
2/16/2015 1:56 am
Feeling emasculated.

As my profile says, I use this site to get out and enjoy fun activities, and depending on the situation, I might be the one that pays for whatever activity it is. Such as a situation that happened not that long ago.

I wanted to go to a concert, I screened some guys and asked them if they wanted to join me. From the ones that turned me down, I mostly got no thank yous. But there was a couple that I found rather strange. When I brought up the fact that I already got the tickets, they seemed insulted. As if me buying the tickets made them less of a man.

The questions I have are for the guys out there. Is it really that big of a deal if the woman pays for the night, even if she was the one that invited them? Why or why not? Shouldn't the guy just enjoy the night, and not worry about who paid for what?

I just don't get.

As for the concert. I will expand on that story another time.

Electricblues4u 48M
128 posts
7/18/2016 7:59 am

 I honestly do try to pay as often as I can but its more of a respectful game of back and fourth to me. You invite me and pay, I will pay for refreshments etc. And pay for the next outing. One hand washes the other so to speak, In closing I would in no way ever be unsulted by a woman paying for me, if anything I consider it an honor


s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
2/16/2015 2:54 am

 An extremely demure example of emasculation if I may.I paid for two nights at the grand canyon and she offered to pay me back I accepted.
Using more than all the road!


ladybughug443 replies on 2/16/2015 3:52 am:
There are those cases where I will actually pay the guy back myself, and those where we go dutch. It isn't about the money, it is about the good times. Thank you for the reply.

luvtolickclit99 50M
1082 posts
2/16/2015 2:46 am

 It's an ego thing for some guys.
If I were in their position, I'd gladly accept the invite. I would how ever possible pay for other things that incur during the night. Maybe a meal, cab ride, drinks ect...


ladybughug443 replies on 2/16/2015 3:49 am:
Kind of figured it to be an ego thing, but one's ego just makes them miss out on the fun. Thanks for the reply.

MaxCourt 56M
338 posts
2/16/2015 2:44 am

 I cannot see why this should be a problem at all...

As long as both get enjoyment and pleasure from the evening/event why does it matter ?

In any case, if someone finds it difficult, Just let them treat you the next time.. no big deal.


ladybughug443 replies on 2/16/2015 3:48 am:
That is the whole point. To enjoy each other's company. Thank you for the comment.

rm_Ensign76 48M
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1 post
2/16/2015 2:26 am

 I don't see a problem with it. we live in 2015 and i don't see an issue with the Lady covering the costs of any activity.

Many years ago when we lived in the age of the man earning the wage and the woman staying at home, it was the norm that the Gentlemen payed for Dinner etc, however those days have long since gone. I cannot see how it would belittle a man for the woman to pay?

Just my opinion, but do find the subject of a man being insulted at the thought, Very strange


ladybughug443 replies on 2/16/2015 3:47 am:
I find it rather strange myself. Thanks for the comment.

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