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One of my lovers initially asked me if I was a 'cum & run' man... I'd never been asked that before
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One of my lovers initially asked me if I was a 'cum & run' man... I'd never been asked that before One of my lovers initially asked me if I was a 'cum & run' man... I'd never been asked that before, and, I feel that many of her filters were not on when we spoke... but, she was like that always... my answer to that question, was 'no' that I don't just get off... what I told her was that I believe in enjoying every moment of and leading up to intimacy and the moments after which depended on what was discussed before or just what was desired... these explorations of what we want are not tasked, rather they are treated like an interesting discourse similar to what couples do when savoring a meal... When I meet a woman, all of my senses get involved. Like a meal, when I enter a restaurant for the first time I explore the outside, check out the lighting, the floor, the seats, the first impression... Similarly, with a woman, I see her from a distance and begin to size her up... is she wearing heals? is she clean? (yes, I think that)... how tall is she? what is her hair like, is it dyed, is it short, does she spray it? too many questions... well, that is my first impression, just like the restaurant... now, when we are closer and it is like the entrée being served at the table... how does it smell? how does she smell? what shampoo did she use? does she use a perfume? what about her body smell? yes, so, like the meal, I want to see it up close with my eyes; smell that expected scent of the meat; see the presentation; is the plate still hot? what goes with it? what are her lips like? is she wearing lipstick; is she looking at me? are her clothes talking to me or to the entire world? is she observing me... well, of course my meal would not be observing me, unless we were eating drunken prawn as I did in Malaysia years ago... but, that's a different unique experience... so, now that I've seen her; smelled her; then I hear her... what is that voice like; what is her laugh like... the touch or the kiss comes next... just like cutting into that steak or tasting that first bite... what is it like... are my eyes open or closed... is her skin to my liking, is mine to hers... so many questions... but, that's me... like the meal, everything adds up... does the entrée work with the side dishes? does she pay attention to words, are there inflections that tell me she is bored, or that she is holding back... or that she is interested... the conversation steers us to a certain place, maybe for the next time or the time after that or whenever... maybe, never... will she respect me in the morning... I've met women that were gorgeous but, 'I may not be the right one, or it might not be the right time', but something just didn't click... and, then with a precious few, it has clicked... probably TMI... I've posted a response similar to this, but, one of my bloggers (not really someone that I own... I just used the term affectionately... because I don't read everybody's blogs and some I'll only read once) asked me if I had posted it on a blog before... so, I can't remember, I only remember the responses... that is how I see it... your comments are appreciated... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!  |
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I wonder about first impressions. I wonder about do overs. Some times folks meet when they are not at their best. It throws wrenches in their interaction. But that is what happens and folks go on their merry way or not so merry way. It is like meeting a person who is depressed or having a bad day, do you give them the benefit of the doubt or think them not worthy of your time? If the conversation is not fascinating all the time, does your attention wander or wain? If they are not perfectly put together, then the chemistry may not be there either. It is a combination of things I would say. thanks for stopping by and commenting on my blog... I do give people the benefit of the doubt... they get two strikes with me, because I know that I've had bad days before... Everybody has something to offer to someone at sometime... I believe that... but, I or she may not be that someone ever... I'm often reminded of the movie 'The Graduate' when meeting people... I think of the horrible 'first date' that Benjamin took Elaine where they visited a strip club... and, then I also remember Benjamin's encounter 'first seduction' with Mrs. Robinson, and the dilemma he is confronted with because he falls for Elaine... Now, that is an uphill battle of first impressions if I ever saw one... it makes you wonder about what is normal and what is your perspective... food for thought!!! thanks again... To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Ouch.....I think I have used up my two strikes...............better be good from now on! To me, the wondering, the anticipation, what excite my mind, it's the best part of it    WITHOUT PASSION LIFE IS NOTHING
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Ouch.....I think I have used up my two strikes...............better be good from now on! To me, the wondering, the anticipation, what excite my mind, it's the best part of it thanks for your comments... It's all good... that anticipation is a wonderful feeling... and, what comes next is even better... thanks again!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Reading this made me realize how selfish I am. I dress based on what makes me feel good for the meet. My appearance will be as I am in my normal environment. I do this because the man has to like me as I really am as that is how he will see me on a day to day basis. But then again I am not even comfortable wearing a push up bra as it presents me in a way that I am not. On the flip side, once I am with someone, then he will know when I dress in a manner that is out of character for me and hopefully he will appreciate it. I enjoyed your description of evaluating the meal, err woman. Thanks for the blog, it was a good one.
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Hi Joy... Thanks for reading and commenting on my blog. There is sizing up going on with both sides of course. It seems like you carefully plan what you are wearing and where you might sit as I've read some of your blogs (could be fantasies) where your women have carefully scoped the restaurant including bathrooms, unobstructed views, get aways, seating arrangement, even the menu items. Always thinking... Awzam. That's how Dreamboy looks at it keeping in mind all options... I like to go to restaurants where I know the food... Thanks again... Have a safe Halloween!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Reading this made me realize how selfish I am. I dress based on what makes me feel good for the meet. My appearance will be as I am in my normal environment. I do this because the man has to like me as I really am as that is how he will see me on a day to day basis. But then again I am not even comfortable wearing a push up bra as it presents me in a way that I am not. On the flip side, once I am with someone, then he will know when I dress in a manner that is out of character for me and hopefully he will appreciate it. I enjoyed your description of evaluating the meal, err woman. Thanks for the blog, it was a good one. Thanks for stopping by to read and comment... We always want to impress on our first meet as it is the only chance that we have to do that... I don't think you are selfish at all. You want what you want and have clearly stated your preferences on your profile so the men you meet from here already have expectations... I'm glad that you liked the analogy I made between the two potentially different items... I've noticed during my life that some people eat to survive 'always'. Normally, this can be attributed to a tight schedule such as working in an environment where you only have 30 minutes or less to eat, or the family family meals have been influenced by one or both of the parents having adopted a habit of devouring their food and leaving the table without saying a word. I was brought up to sit straight and eat with the right utensil(s) as each course was presented. I was shown the rules of etiquette and had to be aware at every meal. I was also introduced to the art of tasting and enjoying a meal whether it consisted of a hamburger and fries or a a five course meal. So, having been exposed to that way of eating, then I applied that to my senses ability to engage my lovers as well. You see, when you are at a meal that lasts over an hour, you have to wait for the different parts of the food to hit your lips, although you may see them or smell them in advance... Depending on the appetizer, the soup, the salad, the entree and the dessert, they all will have distinct looks, smells, tastes, feels and sometimes they talk to you if they are still cooking while presented on a hot plate... The sizzling or the melting of cheese or chocolate is a way that the food speaks to you... Well, that's how it is for me. Many people accuse me of being a slow eater in and out of the bedroom!!! Thanks again! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Oh my... curious woman... Then, you understand me and the value of taking your time with your pleasures and/or your meals!!! Nice and easy going... Take your time... Happy Halloween!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Anticipation of a first meet always does cause excitement but slow and easy is best way to approach this hugssssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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thought so... we are all of those tiny moments in the past.. knowing your surroundings is always a good thing... setting the mood is good prior to anything looming in the erotic zones of our minds... you seduce their mind and they have no resistance to your charming ways... did they ever have a chance??? thanks ... happy Halloween!!! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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Anticipation of a first meet always does cause excitement but slow and easy is best way to approach this hugssssssss V I like how you are thinking... 'slow & easy'... my kind of woman... have a great Halloween!!! thanks for the visit! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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