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Blogs > sarah4older > A Horny Girl's Confessions

Sending a picture with your in it  

sarah4older 32F
225 posts
11/17/2015 3:16 pm
Sending a picture with your in it
I had a man message me recently, interested in Daddy/ role play and he attached a picture of himself, relaxing with his (presumably) /, aged about 1-2 in his lap.

It was a perfectly innocuous picture, and he wanted to show what a nice family guy he is, I suppose. I don't like to see this in an initial message though. If we chat and he wants to share a picture with me later, once he knows I'm not a complete nutter, that's up to him, but sending it out to complete strangers on a sex site seems inappropriate to me.

I'd be interested to know what other people think about this (see poll at bottom) . Maybe I'm in a minority of one. Here's the exchange of messages.....

Him
Would love to rol play daddy/naughtie girl with you .....It's my speciality! Lol. (name removed). X

Me
Sorry, but I'm looking for men in London only. Please don't send pictures round a sex site with a in it - that's very bad form.
Sarah

Him
Sorry but I am a decent human being and I will not bow to those amongst us who are not decent ... decent people should not change their behaviours due to the indecent .....it's good form to fuck them.

Me
No it isn't. If it were an adult who did not give you permission to be included, it would be bad form as well. Don't use a to prove a point. You're sending that picture to people you don't know, and who may not be as decent as you.

Him
Your right of course ... LesbianPersonals is full of paedophiles ... they all gather on an adult sex site ...hundreds of them ...all queueing up to subscribe ... not too sure what point I am trying to prove except that I think it's a great photo that others may want to see ... you could also be wrong .....you may also be one day open to others .... but there is a few years yet to discover that maturity ...

Him
Out of 117 different people messaging me ... your the first to mention my photo having a in it .....why is that ... I wonder...

Reader, he blocked me. So I replied via his profile...

Me
(Sigh) Rant and run. I was thinking I wasn't going to get that typical response from you.
Just ask yourself if you would be happy telling the mother. I'm sure you're decent, but this is a hook-up site for casual sex. Share later.
I'm a man and I wouldn't send it in an initial message
I'm a man and I don't see the problem
I'm a woman and I wouldn't like to see that in an initial message
I'm a woman and I don't see the problem.


mamacita38dd 45F
62894 posts
11/17/2015 3:37 pm

 Actually, I have had people send me pics with their kids in them, and I think the same thing, why would you do that???
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sarah4older replies on 11/17/2015 3:58 pm:
Yeah, I've had at least one before too. This is just the first man I challenged about it. He reckons I'm the first to have objected (and made a veiled comment about me, which you can interpret how you wish). I suspect a lot of others thought the same as us, but just didn't respond.

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
11/17/2015 3:39 pm

 He's a slime ball.


rickyspanish76 48M
7843 posts
11/17/2015 3:43 pm

 I think indecent!


sarah4older replies on 11/17/2015 3:54 pm:
I wouldn't call it indecent. It was just a normal family picture to show he was a nice guy I guess. But I certainly think it was misjudged and inappropriate. I take his points, but it's disturbing that he still doesn't doesn't see the problem. I'm hoping that he just doesn't like to lose face, has actually re-considered, and won't continue to send it.

I like the profile name btw - I got the echo in my head

notsure1949 75M
10657 posts
11/17/2015 4:02 pm

 photos with children should be left out


Mixedcpltx 55M/44F  
2785 posts
11/17/2015 4:02 pm

 Seriously, wtf! Just wrong!


FullOn4U 58M
20399 posts
11/18/2015 4:11 am

 I wonder what the mother of the child would say...

It's not appropriate, obviously it's not. What's more, I don't think that it could ever be seen as "innocuous" or intending to show what a "nice family guy he is". "Good with children" is a phrase that does not belong on an adult sex site.

I doubt very much his statement that he is a "decent human being" - in fact I'd say that his inability to see what's wrong with his choice of photo proves that he isn't.


sarah4older replies on 11/18/2015 12:35 pm:
I meant that the photo itself, if it were seen on Facebook or shown to someone outside of LesbianPersonals, is innocuous. I'm assuming the intent, but it doesn't work when you send it out on a sex site.

If you get to know someone well, even though LesbianPersonals, and you start having non-sexual chats as well, then it would be ok at that point (or at least as ok as sharing any family picture with someone on the internet).

Yes, that's what worries me. He's enraged that I don't see how decent he is, but fails to see any problem, or even understand that other 'decent' people may see a problem, with what he's doing.

davebarnes463 54M
4 posts
11/18/2015 4:16 am

 Think the guy is totally in the wrong, Never in a million years would it be right to publish a childs photo, and especially not on a site like this.

Good on you for telling him as well.

Dave


sarah4older 32F
57 posts
11/18/2015 12:41 pm

 Thank you all, for your replies. We've had one more round of messages (and replies to his profile), but I haven't added it here as I'm done with him now. His argument seems to be that I'm young and inexperienced, he's done lots of things and is older, therefore he's right. I think that's the first comment I've made about this that may be one-sided

It's particularly nice that older people here have made comments in support - thank you.
Sarah.


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
11/19/2015 3:13 am

 One more thing, I would think the site would not allow kids' pics here. They say pics have to be approved, but who knows if they do.


sarah4older replies on 11/19/2015 10:49 am:
I think that the trouble is, this was a pic he just attached to a message, so even if they were vigilant about profile pics, this one would have still been sent. The site should have better and more prominent guidance to people about what is acceptable to send though.

WeLuv2GoNude 68M/66F
81 posts
11/19/2015 7:39 am

 Oh HELL NO that is soooooo fucking wrong. We'd NEVER do that and it would change our minds about meeting with someone who sent us a pic like that.


Stay_In_Reality 56M  
2209 posts
11/23/2015 7:09 am

 No responsible person in their right mind is going to send/share a photo of a child with anyone on an sex site, whether it be attached to a mail or on their profile, I doubt the site would allow the latter anyway.

As for the 117 people messaging him, that smells like BS


thick_throbber17 53M
37 posts
11/23/2015 1:47 pm

 He's absolutely and totally in the wrong to be sending such pictures on a site like this. This place is for the sole use of consenting adults and his actions seem suspiciously like some form of peadophilia to me. In your shoes I'd have reported him.


6969phantom666 58M
492 posts
1/26/2016 9:12 pm

 Never no way in hell would i do that shit
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MomoBear1 73M/109F
345 posts
2/25/2016 5:52 pm

 The man is a buffoon


old4younger1301 59M
88 posts
6/24/2016 2:06 pm

 I've come across profiles where females have said they have a child of xx years and I've told them that perhaps that is not a good idea. Somethings should be kept separate and this is one of those things.
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SevG123 52M
22 posts
5/10/2018 5:51 pm

 He is a pedo, and his subsequent comments were there just to throw you off the track. I have seen similar thing with mothers (probably fake) occasionally, and if you let the first thing slide, they follow up with something creepier. Always trust your instinct!


Hertsmaleforfun 55M  
2 posts
11/27/2018 5:02 pm

 Just so so wrong on all fronts however you look at it.


LimerickJohn 70M
Ask me for a photo
1046 posts
6/28/2019 4:17 pm

 I am a man who raised 3 children on my own and there is no way in hell I would or could condone it.
My children now have children of there own and I have lots of photos with my grandchildren. You will never see them. They are way too precious.

I have always avoided pictures and profiles with children in them.


Loosetooth 48M
1154 posts
6/28/2019 4:21 pm

 I am a man (nominally) and I would not send a photo out on a sex site.... Period.

I mean if you form a relationship with yourself (or whomever) photos may be seen.... But I am not sending them online through a sex site.

My reasoning is nothing to do with paedos (although I suppose it might be a minor worry) but more to do with pretty much being sure that the Mother would not like that (me trying to get hook ups using my child) and the child when grown being fairly creeped out by it.

Finally this particular website is massively untrustworthy, I did not verify myself for years because the only way to do that was to share documents I was not comfortable doing. They have even had massive data breaches.... Putting a photo of my (theoretical) child into that would not, on the balance of probability, result in anything.... But why take that, rather small, risk?


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