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"Why Is It?"
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"Why Is It?" Why is it you go thru all of the changes to try and meet someone here on this site, just to get your heart broken or dissapointed? Is it human nature for men to drive a woman crazy by pursuing her, then after he gets her begins the long process of neglecting her? I have met and been involved with a couple of men on this site. And for whatever reason, it's happened to me again & again. When I found this site, I chose to do as most people do here. I just wanted to meet someone who I could spend some time with when I could, go out and enjoy each other's company and have if not great, pretty descent sex. I have met and chatted with countless men, who go thru the process of chatting & chatting and begging and everything else that they need to finally get the female they are seeking. Then if we're a match, we move on to the next stage. I met one here who chased me from one end of jersey to the other until I finally relented and decided to see him exclusively. All I wanted to do was meet someone when our schedule permitted, hang out, catch up on each other lives, fuck each other silly, and go back to our "other" lives. But no, he decides to step it up a notch by telling me he loves me, which in time hearing it enough and being told aside from his wife, I was the only one for him I began to have those same feelings for him. I know, what a fool I was, but aren't most women when their looking for something that's hard to attain? And most definitely when they do tell you they love you, in your mind, that means you are no longer allowed to fuck around with others, you belong to him and him only. Even though in my case he adamantly told me he didn't want me fucking around with others on this site, come on isn't this where he found me? And sure enough it was the beginning of the end. After two years of waiting for him, being stood up by him, being hurt by him and being totally dissapointed by him, I threw in the towel. Aside from the first year, it had gotten totally dissatisfying. Then I met another one here who for an entire year put me thru a long process of cat & mouse. And believe it or not, we never even got to actually meet face to face! We created a on physical relationship here on the computer. And he did the same thing, started with that I love you crap and insisting that I only deal with him exclusively. Stupid me, he just kept me hanging on to the hope that we would eventually meet, but of course that didn't happen. The reason I am writing this is because if there are any women out there looking for the same things I have been, be careful of your heart. They will worm their way in and steal it and send you on an emotional roller coaster ride until you can't take it no more and want off. Don't get me wrong, I know this site is what it is, a let's meet and let's fuck because I ain't getting none at home site. And I can deal with that, but when you get these men who say one thing and do another and have you totally at their mercy. Or tell you they're this, when they're actually that. You get dissolusioned and just say forget it, it's just not worth the emotional drama. My membership runs out in January and when it does, so do I, who needs the stress? Good Luck Ladies & watch your heart ~ Smooches ~  NJDoll |
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Hello Letshavefun: Yes I do recall you sending me a couple of messages and for whatever reason why you didn't receive my reply, I don't know. I did respond back to you, I respond to all of the messages that are sent to me, even if I know they are not a good match. At the times that you sent me a response I was involved with one or the other of the two gentlemen I mentioned in my blog. Even though I didn't want a relationship with either of these men, they both turned out that way. I also agree with you, I think I do seem to be attracted to the same type of men, but I don't plan on doing that again. And your also right that loser men like those make it bad for the good guys like yourself. Best of luck in finding that special lady before your membership runs out. She's out there waiting in the wings for you. Take care of yourself & thanks for responding to my blog, it made me feel much better, especially coming from a man's point of view. Smooches ~ NJDoll
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7/1/2007 5:14 pm |
Hi njdoll yes / thier are alot of men and woman on this site that like to play games. They well lead you on and on , tell you what ever you want to hear, and then when it comes to meeting - they drop you like a bad habit . I really think it makes them feel good knowing that some out thier really wants them and most of the time , I think that is all they want. Now in reading your profile , it states very clearly what you are looking for and want. I just think you ran into some little boys, that just like to talk the talk, and sorry to say , never had any intentions of meeting up with you. I have personal meet some of those on this site (little girls).You get into chatting with each other , talking about every thing under the sun , and just whem you think you know this person and would like to meet , they disappear or the best one is that you are to meet some place and they do not show or give you some bull about why they can not. This list can go on and on. So just hang in thier and buy your time. Sooner or later you well find that you are looking for. Hope you got my e-mail and well be waitting to hear back from you. For real. JOHNNY
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NJ Did I read that right?? Aside from his Wife you were Number 1?? Well unless you were all 3 together then I'd think that statement would have been Good-Bye Charlie! Good luck in your search Just try to remember that all men ain't "B's" and niether are all Women!! Ya I know it ain't easy sometimes!
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Good Evening Justmejay5 & Bushice: Thank you both for the wonderful comments and words of encouragement. It's nice to know there are some really nice folks on this site. Who like myself are just looking for something or rather someone with really simple desires, but hard as hell to attain. Letshavefun: I will think about your offer, I can't make any promises because of being spooked, but I will think about it. Take care to all of you gentlemen and I truly hope you find that special someone that we all are seeking, if not here, then somewhere else... Smooches ~ NJDoll
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7/3/2007 6:20 am |
WELL I AM HAPPY TO HEAR , I HOPE , THAT I AM 1 OF THE NICE PRESON ON THIS SITE AND HOPE THAT MY INSIGHT ON YOUR PROBLEM HELPED. SO WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY BEING SPOOKED? WATCHED????? JOHNNY
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Hello Johnny: Being spooked, I mean since I had such a bad deal, which scared me with the last two relationships and some of the other crap I have been putting up with from other men I have been dealing with on this site. I plan on taking things nice and slowly, only thing is those that persist in meeting me right away and getting something started will have to wait. I plan on taking some time out for myself. I am debating on freezing my profile for a little while. I really need a break and jumping right back into the frying pan isn't one of my specialties. Doll
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7/3/2007 5:25 pm |
HI DOLL; YOU WELL FIND THAT THIS HAPPENS ALOT ON ALL OF THE SITES , GUYS / GIRLS WELL LEAD YOU ON AND ON, AND WHEN IT COMES TIME TO MEET. WELL THERE IS ALWAYS AM EXCUSE AND I HOPE YOU NEVER GET A NOT SHOW. THAT'S ONE THING THAT I CAN'T STAND . YOU HAVE MADE THE COMMITMENT AND SHOULD STAND UP TO IT - NO MATTER WHAT. CAN'T SAY I DO NOT BLAME YOU FOR BEING SPOOKED, BUT DON'T GIVE IN SO EASY. DON'T KNOW THE HOLE STORY BEHIND THE OTHER 2 DATES GONE BAD, BUT THERE ARE OTHER GUYS OUT THERE WHICH WOULD TREAT YOU ALOT BETTER , BUT YOU MUST BE PICKY AND SHOULD CHAT ABIT MORE AND FIND OUT ALL YOU CAN ABOUT THAT PERSON AND HIS HONESTY. IF THIERS AN QUESTION OF DOUBTIN YOUR MIND, STICK TO YOU FEELINGS , AND PUT THAT PERSON ON THE SIDE. WELL WOULD LOVE TO CHAT MORE, BUT LET ME KNOW IF IT WOULD BE OK WITH YOU IF I E-MAIL YOU. HAVE A NICE EVENING JOHNNY PS; BESIDES YOU HAVE AT LEASE 2 NICE GUYS NOW WANTING TO CHAT WITH YOU .
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7/4/2007 10:30 am |
HI NJDOLL SEE YOU TURNED OFF PROFILE. JUST WANT TO SAY TO YOU , WHEN YOU DO COME BACK, PLS DROP ME A E-MAIL. I PROMISE TO FULFILL YOUR NEEDS AND WANTS , AND WELL NOT STAND YOU UP. JOHNNY
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7/14/2007 6:58 pm |
I can tell you that there are guys out there for you NJDoll who are looking for what it sounds like you are! Your profile says you want a single guy which could become a problem like you have experienced. I think there should be a site for only married or attached and looking people! I myself have had and are in relationships here where we share a fantasy life on the side! You can have both feelings and wonderful sex knowing it can never be serious or real! Look me up if you are interested in discussing this as i have always found your profile very interesting even if i never received a reply! lol 
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7/19/2007 11:18 am |
Having been fortunate enough to have met Doll and suckle her magnificent milkers I couldn't let this opportunity go without replying. I am happy to say that I am not one of the infamous two that she is speaking about though I do admit to meeting her only once and all too briefly. NJdoll is one of the few "real" people on this site. Anyone who has spent any time here is bound to run into all kinds of B.S.ers but doll's profile is true and honest. We both connected because we are not getting what we need at home. It did take some time to actually meet (about a year) but I've always felt that all good things come to those who wait. The American view of sex is so skewed by our puritan founders that it gets inextricably tied to "love." Many Europeans have, what I think is, a healthier attitude toward sex ie. marry for love or politics and take a lover for sex. In this way the libido is satisfied when spouses are unable or unwilling to. Even the bible speaks of two types of love "Eros" (an expression of the individual's desires) and "Agape" (unconditional love). It seems that doll's experiences have led her to meet men who profess agape love but really want eros. Bushice hit it right on the head, "NJ Did I read that right?? Aside from his Wife you were Number 1??" Doll, I think of our brief time together with relish and I'm sorry you've had a rough time. I wish I could make things better for you but as you so eloquently pointed out simple desires are so hard to attain. Peace,
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Hey Tithound! How the hell are you? I haven't heard from you in ages! It's good to know your still around my friend, have you finally found that one and only? Or are you still looking for that impossible "fit" that we all so desperately seem to need to find? Thanks for the wonderful words of encouragement. I have decided to take a sabbatical and rest for a little while and enjoy the rest of this Summer before it's gone. If you don't first, I will send you a message to your profile, take care & soo good to hear from you... Smooches ~ Doll
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Gr8PussyLicker: thank you also for the words of encouragement. I am a woman of simple wants and desires, but as with meeting men here and ending up in a boring marriage. I seem to just get the wrong end of the ice cream stick when it comes to what I want or desire. Also, you stated you read my profiles, I don't recall receiving any messages from you. If I did and didn't respond, I apologize, I generally try to answer each and every person who took the time to write me. And the same to those who have written me and not received a response, I might not have gotten your messages. As you can see I love to chat, so it doesn't do me any harm to answer someone back even if I know we will never meet each other. Again, thanks for the words of encouragement and maybe I just might look you up to discuss this topic further, take care... Smooches ~ Doll
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This site is what it is and the problem arises when people get on here for the wrong reasons. This is a Sex site and everyone is on here for that reason.Whatever their sexual desires or wants are that is why we are all here. It's too bad u have had the negative experiences that u have had and I'm sure ur luck will turn around, just hang in there. It's just a shame that no matter what there's always gonna be people that will always play games no matter with no regard for other peoples feelings This site is the one place that no one has any reason to play games because everything should be up front and in the open. Keep on Trucking and Hang Tough
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4/23/2008 5:53 am |
I think that when people are filling out their profiles its just all to easy to check off untrue stats and fantasies. Maybe they don't really give thought to the fact that their profile is going to be read by real-life people. If people would just think beyond their monitor and realize that the people reading the messages, people with lives/emotions and feelings. I think its really easy to write and post messages based on the moment, but as the relationship progresses with the reality of meeting most people just chicken out. And what do they do? They take the easy way out by blocking and ignoring. Just rest assured that in despite all of the fakes and wannabes on here there are some real people. I wish you luck
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i totally agree with what sexydolly has said here
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