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Basic BDSM 101
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Basic BDSM 101 I know that I normally don't post my experiences this close together but with this one, I've got to get it all down while its still fresh in my senses. The down side to that is that I really haven't had enough time to soak it all in and actually bring some reasoning to it. Perhaps some of it will unfold as I write. I do know that this experience is probably going to be the most difficult to write. Yesterday morning (Friday...boy, am I glad that I had the day off....whew!!)when I woke up, my c**k was hard enough to chip diamonds!! I actually think that it was the reason I woke up in the first place. Well, like most people, I rolled over to look at the clock to see what time it was. Instantly, I felt the remnants of the night before all over my body and that got me even more aroused and my c**k began to throb. At the same time, the memories and sensations of the previous night and morning began flooding back into my mind and body (I'll explain the latter further on). I have no idea if I was dreaming about it or not but I do know that it was very clear in my mind at that moment. I instantly tried to gain some perspective and understanding of it all. Let's back up a little..... Thursday night, I had a meeting with a couple at a restaurant in town. We had agreed on 8pm allowing for a few minutes (LOL....little joke for them). Anyway, as I got ready to go, I was in the shower and the thoughts of what was to come was obsessing my mind. I knew what their profile said and what this evening might be filled with but I must admit, I was extremely apprehensive this time because of the extreme nature. I had been thinking about this evening on and off for the past few days and have conjurred up so many deep and dark ideas in my head that I was almost scaring myself but at the same time extremely aroused. Was I actually going to go through with this? As I've noted in previous postings, I am by no means a coward and I can always walk away but what if this time, I'll be unable to due to what I was willingly asking to experience? I guess I better explain what I was going to do and ultimately did. A few times in my life, I've had a girfriend or wife that love being tied down and also loved tying me down. As some of you know, at those moments, you are most vulnerable but you still find it extremely arousing. However, this was with someone you knew a great deal and trusted. I had one girlfriend (I've mentioned her before)who had a fantasy involving a strap-on and a guy that I allowed her to indulge on me. One time, she tied me face down on the bed and then took me with her strap-on. She started with a small one and then moved to a new larger one that I didn't know she had gotten. She had to have orgasmed a dozen times while she was f**king me. I can remember her grunting with each thrust; feeling her fingernails digging into my hips and feeling her gorgeous DD breasts rubbing across my back each time she shoved into me. She loved the power she had at that moment and I loved giving it to her. I found myself getting more and more aroused as she stroked me hard and deep and found myself screaming "harder baby, harder". Sorry, straying WAY off subject; its relevant though....I promise. Anyway this time, I was willingly offering myself to an unknown couple with only the slightest idea of what was going to transpire only for the experience. These thoughts continued to fill my head as I was in the shower and on the drive to the restaurant. What kind of people were they? Were they really extreme? Were they mass murderers that no one has figured out yet? Has there been a series of unsolved missing persons cases in the area? Who's going to take care of my and IF something actually happened to me, please police officials, don't tell my family on the specific circumstances of my dissapearance and demise. Geez, WHAT IN THE HELL AM I DOING??? Ok, stop!!! I'm a pretty intuitive guy that read people fairly well. I've had a couple of experiences that turned bad and it was because I didn't listen to my instincts who were screaming as me to walk away. Needless to say I listen to them now. Anyway, I continued on and got to the restaurant. We had already exchanged what we looked like and when I walked in, they were already there and we spotted each other right away. Guess they didn't need the extra few minutes after all...LOL I walked over and sat down and we exchanged pleasantries and shook hands. They were an extremely sexy couple that had an air of confidence about them that you couldn't help but admire. You could tell by the way they acted that they had been together for quite a while and greatly loved being together and sharing each other's interests. We ordered our drinks and exchanged conversation about a lot of things and then we made an absolutely amazing discovery about how small the world actually was around this town; which proved to be even smaller once we got back to their house and spoke a little more. Anyway, the positive result was that most of my hesitation and apprehension subsided as soon as this discovery was made. We continued to talk and they ordered an appetizer. And then the conversation turned into what was to transpire that evening with a simple question: "What was I wanting to happen"? I honestly couldn't answer. I fumbled around with some of my past experiences and a few of what my imagination could come up with but I really had no frame of reference to give a direct answer. What was I wanting from this? In normal sexual sitations, regardless of the number of people or gender, its pretty easy to say: Oral, penetration, anal, toys, whatever...but this evening proved to have many more levels that I never would have dreamed to have existed sexually. Boy, I think I was in way over my head. I resulted to simply replying with lets start simple and work our way up. They were ok with that for the time being and then began explaining some of the differnet levels, and as it turned out, some of the different definitions that existed in this sexual world. The most important part that I was to remember this night was 4 basic colors and their significance with what was to come. Green, yellow, red and blue quite simply represent your current arousal state, for the lack of a better definition. Green obviously means to continue, yellow means continue but you are pushing my limit, red obviously means stop and blue means that that is as far as you are wanting to go. Oh sorry, with this type of sexual encounter, the intensity increases according to how far you want it to go. Later on at their house, I was told not to speak until spoken to so as not to confuse anything (Oops...I think I broke this rule a couple times from the sheer pleasure) and when I was spoken to, it was simply to ask me what color I was, which I responded with the appropriate color. Sorry, I don't want to get too far ahead on this. The stage and setting for this night is an integral part that I need to express. Besides, I needed to take a break and go to the tanning bed but then again, you wouldn't have the slightest idea that I stepped away....nevermind. Back to the evening. Well, we stayed at the restaurant a little while longer and then left to go to their house. Upon our arrival, he immediately began pulling everything out while she and I continued to talk about a little of this and a little of that. He began by assembling a mechanism that actually has a name but it escapes me at the moment. It is essentially a man (or woman) sized "X" with bondage points at all 4 ends. He then pulled out the chains and straps and hooked them to the points. Rest assured, the straps were actually velcrove (sp?) attached to the chains. I was told that it added to the effect and I can tell you now that it surely does. They did explain to me that there are other kinds that you can use that you can't get out of but these were designed to get out of if need be. In between this assemply, the lights were shutoff and scented candles were lit. Music was also turned on that firther added to the effect. I actually loved te music; a sort of new age type music that added to the entire evening. After he completed the assemply, I sat there still amazed that I was actually going to go through with this. In the meantime, he began laying out his arsenal of toys and such and explained what each of them were used for. He had a couple riding crops, flogs of different sizes and materials, gloves, satin and velvet sheets of fabric, some paddles of varying sizes and material along with a lot of other items that were still out of my view and not introduced. Oh, I forgot something at the restaurant. I stepped away to go to the restroom once and came back and accidentally interupted a private conversation they were having. They explained that they really didn't have time to get together to discuss the script or agenda for this evening. Here I was always keeping the options open and going with the flow with my encounters but this sort of sexual endeavor usually takes a script or sequence of events. I never would have guessed. The reasons became clear later on. Back to the house... As he finished laying out all of the toys, she re-entered from changing clothes. Contrary to what you may be thinking, she didn't step out in an all leather body suit and whip. Actually, she was in a comfortable sleep shirt and nothing else. Remember what I said about that in a previous blog? (wink) Well, she and I stepped outside to have a cigarette while he went to get dressed (or undressed that is). When we cam back inside, he was just stepping out and also, he was not wearing some leather contraption or mask so I hope this may dispell some myths or pre-concieved stereo-types. He asked if I was ready. Here it was, the moment of truth. Obviuosly, I said yes and began undressing. It turned out that she was very aroused by the thoughts of the evening and asked if she could get some of what was to come before me. I had no problem with that so at least I could see what was about to happen. She stripped her shirt off and there she was with her beautful body completely exposed and she went up to the big X and grabbed the ends. He stripped off is shirt and grabbed one of the flogs that he had laying on the table (I'm assuming it was her favorite) and he struck her for the first time across her back. Though the sound was incredibly intimidating, there was no welt or mark whatsoever!! He did it again...still nothing. He began doing it a little faster and I watched her. She didn't flinch or make a sound except some moans of pleasure. Actually, she was arching her sexy body as she stood there essentially telling him to proceed. I wouldn't understand any of this until later when I experienced it myself. After a few minutes, he relaxed and then asked if I was ready. I stood up and walked over to the cross. He gave me one final word just before we started; he let me know that when we began, he would take on a dominant persona and reminded me not to speak until spoken to and only respond with a color. Then he handed me a mask to cover my eyes. Oh wait, forgot about that one too. When I was considering all this, having my eyes blindfolded was out of the question. While at the restaurant, they actually brought it up and explained the significance and it made sense. I said I would try it with the option of removing it if I couln't handle it and they gratiously agreed without hesitation. This was another reason why my apprehensions subsided. It greatly added to the experience. Ok, I've kept you in suspense long enough but it was necessary to set the stage and atmosphere for the rest of this. Some of you will understand it, some of you won't. I was now blindfolded and was led up to the cross. First my left arm and then my right; my right leg and then my left was each bound to the tips of the cross and the room was silent except for the music and very faint whispers that I couldn't understand. Here I was spread eagle and naked, bound to a cross with two very sexy people about to do who knows what to me with the smell of incense in the air and soft music playing. All the other senses in my body was on full alert to compensate for my loss of vision: smell, hearing and tactile. However, at this point, I lost all sense of time so I really don't know how long any of it went on. After a brief few moments I began feeling hands on my skin. First one, two and then four. Remember, my tactile senses were in overdrive so at this point, I could tell which ones were male and which were female. They caressed my back, chest, ass, c**k, balls, legs, abdomin....everything. A few times someone was standing behind caressing me with their entire body while the other was gliding their hands on the front portion of my anatomy. I know I sighed a few times because of how aroused I was at that moment. This went on for a while and then I only felt her hands on me. A few seconds later, the other hands re-appeared but he was wearing a pir of gloves that were essentially course and he began caressing and gliding his hands on my body. Some faint whispers and then there she was with some kind of soft fabric (is that satin?) gliding around the front of me. Softly wrapping around my c**k and being gently pulled off, the feel of the course hands caressing my ass and balls and dropping down the inside of each thigh. As one continued with their actions the other went over and grabbed another article off the table and came back over to me. There were brushes of different sizes, thickness and material all with the specific purpose of increasing one's arousal by varying degree. The really funny part I found out later, was that most of it are everyday itesm that you can find in any store....sort of makes you think a little more open when going grocery shopping, doesn't it?...LOL After an undetermined amount of time and various arousal articles that I lost track of long before, I felt him come up behind me and whisper simply, "give me a color" and I immediately responded with "green". Are you kidding? This was incredibly arousing!!! At that moment, my entire body was fully awake and sensing everything to its finest detail. Please, by all means, continue!! Then, I felt the unexpected sting of some kind of paddle or crop on my left ass cheek. Ok, I did flinch because it wasn't expected but that was the point of the blindfold: receiving the unexpected adds to the effect. It stung for only a moment and then there was another on the opposite side and it too only lasted for a moment. Was my c**k getting hard from this? I couldn't tell, but I do know that my entire body was aroused to great heighths. I couldn't say anything but I know I thought "OMG, this is making me incredibly horny"!! A few more swats..."damn, more horny...this is impossible. Oh please, give me more....am I actually thinking that"? Then he did something that I never thought would be possible with me. I've alway thought myself to be an incrdibly strong willed individual. People have tried to hypnotize me or cleaverly manipulate me into doing things but with no success; too strong willed. However, in a very short amount of time and effort, he had me responding to a few non-verbal commands as if I was a stallion being trained to perform tricks. Because I've got a passion for psychology, I was able to immediately figure out the classical conditioning he used to make me do what he wanted in those arousing moments. I still can't believe it but I'm telling you he did. At this point, he had a crop or paddle of some kind and initially he would come up behind me and lightly tap me on the spot between my legs and between my balls and ass. You know, that sensitive area that men and women have. Anyway, a few times doing that and I began arching my back so I would more expose that area. In turn, he would caress my c**k or balls and then start again. It only took him a couple times of doing this association for my body (not my mind...my body all by itself!!) to immediately arch again everytime he lightly tap me there to expose my ass for him. OMG....I've just been trained like a !!! LOL I find that extremely funny!!! So, if any of you that I should ever meet in the future ever wants me to arch my back and expose my ass for you, you now know what to do....LOL....you can thank this very talented gentleman. LOL Anyway, the evening continued on with increasing levels of intensity and he would periodically ask me my color and everytime I responded with "green". At one point, she was in a full body caress with my back while he ever-so-carefully placed some kind of clamps on both of my nipples. It turns out they were only clothes pins I discovered later. At first, it was a little uncomfortable but then became very arousing as they continued to the next level of intensity. My entire body was so alive with all the sensations happening to it that I couldn't help but to be aroused to a level I;ve never experienced before. Here I was spread-eagle, naked, bound to a cross, blindfolded with clamps on both of my nipples, completely aroused and excited with the anticipation of what was next and soon I found out. He then began using the flogs he had laid out so ceremoniously at the beginning and I had witnessed being used on his sexy partner. He struck me the first time. It really didn't hurt at all, actually it was very arousing. Then there was another, and another. I remember thinking back to an old girlfriend who had such an intense orgasm with me once that she literally raked her nails across my back in ecstasy. After I asked her if she was ok, that got me so aroused that I didn't stop and we literally moved the bed across the floor about 2 feet. The more she raked her nails across my back, the harder I f**ked her. I only found out the next morning that she took off skin that night. LOL....I think I may still have a couple scars from that night....LOL Sorry, let's get back to where we were..... He used a small flog at first and then started using a larger one and still it was very arousing. Periodically though all this, someone was moving to the front of me and began sucking on my c**k and then would stop and later would come back and start again. At some point, I coudln't tell who was doing what. I felt a body on may back and lips around my c**k. As I was getting flogged, there was someone also sucking me. Every once in a while, he would come up behind me and ask me my color and I still responded with "green". Someone would tap me in that area again to get me to arch my back and then I felt him full body against me from behind and grab my hips. I could feel his erect c**k between my legs and found myself wishing he would shove it in me right then. At a few of those moments, she was in front sucking on my c**k and stroking his c**k and my balls together. The flogging got more intense and faster. One of them was sucking me while the other was laying the straps of the flog acros my back and ass. My body was so aroused that I was starting to moan I think and had a death grip on the chains that were hooked to my bondage straps and the 4 point cross. Then suddenly it stopped. There was still the lips on my c**k sucking me in and out of their mouth and then I felt something smooth searching for my as***le. This time, no tapping was required, my back arched only slightly because I still had someone sucking my c**k but the smooth object began pushing in. The really amazing thing about this couple and this evening was that their actions were all in unison with each other as if they had rehearsed it a hundred times. As the one sucking me was pulling my c**k out of their mouth, the one with the object was pushing in and then the mouth was sucking me in again. This went on in an agonizing pace but so very erotic until suddenly, there was one finla push and it was all the way in my ass. The mouth was still going on my c**k and then there was the flog again!! OMG....this was fricken' incredible. All night I was able to bite my lip and keep as silent as I could but this was the most intense moment of the evening and an "OH S**T" escaped my lips!! I don;t really remember if he asked me what my color was at that point or not but he could probably tell that my exclamation was not out of pain but pleasure. In either case....it was definetely "GREEN"!!! After a few more 'lashings' and suckings. It all stopped and they recommended me to take break. I couldn't agree more at that point. My legs and arms were about to give out but, oh my, I didn't want it to end. They both came up to me and un-bound my arms at first and then my legs and I found myself almost falling to the floor. They were both there to catch me and I think I remember him saying something about that being completely normal and this being called the "after-care" (I think that's what he said...LOL....very appropriately named). Remember, I had been bound in a stand-up, spread eagle position for an undetermined amount of time with all of my muscles tensed. By the way, this was the cause of the sensation I woke up with the next day that I described at the beginning of this. They say that vigorious sex works every muscle in your body; boy did I feel it the next morning. As an after thought of making sense of all of it, I think I realized something as I wrote this; I wondered how it was possible for my entire body to be hyper-sensitive during the evening but me not able to tell what was being used or the gender of the person caresing or rubbing against me? I think it may have something to do with first, not really knowing them intimately to begin with but second, yeah my skin may have been very sensitive but with every muscle in my body tensed and contracted, it sort of negated what I might have been able to feel or recognize through touch. Well, I excused myself to go to the restroom and remove the object (turned out to be a plug) and I just had to know what my back and ass looked like so I looked in the mirror. Not a single welt or mark!!! Yeah, it was slightly red (obviously) but there was literally no remnants of a lashing whatsoever on any oart of me. Unbelievable!!! I do believe that if we continued and ONLY if I so wished, he or she could have left some pretty good ones with what they were using. When I went back out into the living room where thye were, I was literally speechless. All I could say was "WOW" and I believe I made a joke saying just that....LOL Oh, I almost forgot one thing. Somewhere during the flogging, he did come up and say one other thing to me that I truly didn't expect. He came up and simply whispered "she's already very wet from watching this", or something along those lines. That just aroused me even more because through his actions on me, she was becoming aroused; the vision I conjured up was so incredibly sexy!!! Well, we spoke for a little while after that and they asked me what I thought and I fumbled around trying to find how to express it all. I still hadn't figured out how all of it was so arousing to me. After we spoke for a while, she couldn't take anymore and asked for her turn. He agreed and she stepped up to the cross. I so wanted to actually see everything I had just experienced from this side of the equation. We both began binding her to the 4 points of the cross just as I had been earlier and she as blindfolded. Initially, both he and I began caressing her entire body. He moved around to the front and we took turns gliding our hands across her breasts, ass, p**sy, thighs, waist.....every part of her sexy body. Since I was the rookie in this completely, I took my cues from him and knew that the silence was an integral part of the overall experience. He knodded toward me and some part of her and I acted how i thought he wanted me to. And then it came the time for me to step away because he was going to begin using his toys that she loved so much. What I winessed next had me in such awe that I couldn't do anything else but watch with amazement. When I stepped back and sat down, he then strted using his flogs on her; first a small one and then a larger one. At one point, he was using two in a poetic motion where there was constantly one or the other lashing against her gorgeous body. With each strike, her body arched in an undescribable way that was so incredibly sexy that even if speaking was allowed, I wouldn't know what to say. There was nothing harsh, hurtful or painful about the entire surreal scene I was witnessing. These two incredibly sexy people cared so much for each other that they each read each other's minds and knew what the other wanted. It was like watching a flock of birds gracefully negotiating the skies and when there was a breathe of wind from a different direction, the entire flock would all move in an instinctive fashion. Though the reason and venue all this was happening in may not be traditionally considered art, I was indeed witnessing an artist painting his orgasmic masterpiece with her as his subject. This was truly beautiful in an odd sort of way. At one point, he handed me a condom and asked if I wanted to f**k her because she'd enjoy it a great deal. Now, don't get me wrong, yes I wanted to a great deal but my arousal level was so high with all this that penetrating her didn't feel right at that moment and subsequently, couldn't get hard. It would be like asking Michalangello if I could make a couple paint strokes on the Cistine Chapel....it just ain't happening! At least not this first time; however, if I get another opportunity to play with this couple again, I won't pass on the opportunity. I guess I should explain this a little. The arousal I felt was not just a physical one. It was mostly mental. Have any of you every had every neuron in your body is firing all at once? That kind of arousal goes far beyond the one where only your genitals are involved. Every touch, smell and noise excites you. That's how I was at that moment. Combine that with being in awe over the scene before me and maybe you can understand a little why I couldn't f**k her at this very moment. I will say, that later on that night was a different story (wink). Anyway, this poetic scene continued. He would lash at her sexy body and then reward her by caressing her p**sy occasionally. She would arch her back and speak a color, which did reach yellow a couple times but he would react with a caressing of her p**sy again. I don;t think she ever actually orgasmed while he was using the flog or paddle on her but I do know that she neared orgasm so much that when he touched her with his hand, she came almost instantly and this happened quite a few times. Have I ever said how sexy a woman is when she's having an orgasm? Well, let me tell you that it is, the arching of the back, the moaning, the spreading of the legs....all of it. Well, witnessing this sexy lady bound to that cross was even more so because she couldn't move everything that she normally would so her body contorted in other ways to make up for it....sheer grace and beauty in motion. Once again, after an undetermined amount of time had passed, she was spent and he asked me to give him a hand un-binding her and then hold her up while he got her a robe to slip on. I knew how she felt at that moment with every limb weak from the intense pleasure. Anyway, we all relaxed for a few moments. Talked about some of the stuff that had taken place while I asked my un-skilled questions about everything and they patiently answered. After a short while, we adjourned to the bedroom where we finished the evening in a more customary (sp?) fashion. However, I will say that during this time, I greatly felt the urge to return the favor they both gave me so when they got into a position that I had both his c**k and p**sy in the same vicinity, I paid a lot of attention to them both. That was very exciting. Though there were many things that went on that night that were all firsts for me, there was one other one that I'd like to mention. All three of us had been swapping around positions and trading who and what we were statisfying for a little while and then while she was sucking on my c**k and he was f**king her, he reached over and handed me a condom and gestured toward her. Obviuosly, I moved down between her legs and entered her while pushing her legs toward her chest and I began stroking. He was behind us so I wasn;t sure what he was doing but it became evident a short while later. As I was stroking in and out of her, I felt him come up from behind me but wasn;t sure what he was going to do. I slowed my rhythm down a little until I figured out what he was doing by the expression on her face; he was entering her anally. It seemed a little slow going so I tried to assist by lifting up her hips so he could more easily gain entry. In the meantime, I continued to stroke in and out of her in a slow rhythm to keep her and I aroused. I'm not sure if he was successful in that endeavor but then he changed his target to the only open entry point that was there: my ass. When I realized what he was about to do, I looked down at her and she said "I don't know what he's doing either". I guess the questioned look was on my face and she answered it before I spoke. Anyway, there it was, another from my list that I wanted to experience about to happen. I stopped pulling and pushing in and out of her for a moment and then his hard c**k was in me!! OMG, he had a nice c**k!! It felt great and then I started to stroke in and out of her again. We were only able to do this for a short while because of the position we were all in but I will tell you that it was incredible. Ultimately, we all fell to the bed laughing because we couldn't pull it off but all wanted to. After laying there a few minutes laughing at ourselves, I glanced up at the clock and saw the time at last. Out of fear of overstaying my welcome, I politely excused myself and departed for home. This evening was absolutely incredible and I really do want to see how much further I'd go with them. I hope that someday, they and I can do that and much more because it was truly one of the most sensually erotic experiences I've ever experienced along that sexual realm. I'm not sure if any of you will ever be fortunate enough to meet and play with them but if you have already, you know what I'm talking about. If you do in the future, you will never regret it!! Thank you both for an incredibly enlightening and arousing evening and I wish you both my very best of wishes.  |
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7/10/2007 2:14 am |
I don't know if your experience is fact or fiction ,but it definitely was hot .I had a similar experience and ,and now is my main desire .Once you've had the experience ,you can't go back .
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UPDATE: My host and hostess kindly sent me a few pics of the evening and I couldn't resist posting one with this posting. I hope the cross thing makes sense now....LOL
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3/27/2011 7:32 am |
Ahh the first time - what a joy! You are right though - BDSM is totally a mental game. Wait until you hit "subspace" sometime. It is the most insanely gratifying sense of euphoria you will ever have the pleasure of feeling! I hope you have many more wonderful experiences in the world of BDSM.
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sounds awesome
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sexy ass 
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8/9/2020 7:59 am |
hot!!
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